We all have a large friend or family member that does things we just don't understand. Some of us might chuck it off as a character flaw, anti-social, or perhaps just strange behavior. However, before rushing to judgement, it might make sense to try and look at things from a different perspective…
The truth is, most people have good reasons for their behavior. That's just common sense. Of course, we don't all have the same reasons, because we all live unique lives under different circumstances.
For example, take the condition of color blindness. There are many people that can’t see color, yet they live in a world where everyone expects them to easily recognize the difference in color-coded instructions, charts, signs, etc.
Being a person that’s struggled with identifying colors my entire life, it’s damn frustrating. You do your best to “fit in” without having to constantly explain the condition, but sometimes “fitting in” is simply a matter of avoiding the conversation.
People generally don’t enjoy having to constantly explain their condition to other people. It’s far easier to avoid the topic, or simply avoid any situation that may reveal the limitation.
Being color blind definitely has its challenges, but those challenges are visual limitations. Sure, you may not quickly understand the colors within a chart being discussed, but there are plenty of ways to get that missing information and quietly continue on with life. I do it all the time.
However, physical limitations aren’t so easy to hide or work around!
Being a big person is definitely a challenge, not only from a health perspective, but from a day to day living perspective as well. The world just wasn’t built for a big person, or at least the people-made objects within it. It seems like once you venture over the 300-pound mark, the structural capacity of everything you encounter comes into question.
Unfortunately, for a big person, simply avoiding situations that could shine a light on this problem isn’t an easy thing to do, as it’s quite obvious. However, to those that don’t operate heavy equipment (aka big bodies), looking at some of the things big folks do can many times leave you scratching your head…
Odd Behavior of Fat People
Here are some examples of behavior that may be considered strange –
Sitting in Odd Locations
This is a strategic tactic big people use when presented with a public seating scenario. The goal here is to get out of the way from people constantly trying to “squeak” around us.
We tend to either go to the very last rows and last seat (where nobody can go around us), or we go to the very front where there’s plenty of room to go around. The middle rows are a dangerzone, as are isle seats.
Arrive to Meetings & Events Oddly Early
We need to scope out the place for several reasons – do a seat check (is it flimsy? can it hold us?), identify any areas that could traps us (do we have room to escape?), find good parking that won't box our car in and prevent the door from opening all the way, etc.
Believe me, it isn't cool arriving to a meeting late and walking into a full room of people with only a few seats open in the center of a room. Naturally everyone points to the open seat, which only you know will not work.
Don't Ride in Other Peoples Cars
We just don’t want to break your stuff. Be thankful. Plus, we know we fit in our rides… or they're already broken. 🙁
Dodge Events that Require Dressing Up
Clothing for big folks is awful, and rarely fits comfortably or looks very good. This isn't about being “cheap” and not buying clothing that fits, there just isn't much available.
See our article on clothes for big guys to understand this problem better.
It's Extremely Cold in Their House
It's true, we just don't get cold unless it's REALLY cold. I guess we just have more “natural” insulation (aka fat). That's really the only explanation I can think of that makes sense. I suppose if there's any benefit to being big it's the cost save on our heating bill. LOL
Rarely Visit Other Peoples Homes
Again, we don't want to break your stuff. If you're going to spend time at anyone's home you're going to be expected to sit down on furniture, use the bathroom, stairs, etc. Standard hardware just won't work for some big dudes.
Don't Go to Movies
Most big folks love movies – it's non-strenuous and can be fully snack oriented! The problem? You guessed it, the chairs! Unless the arms can come up, it's likely not doable, or comfortable.
These are just some glimpses of what it might be like for your big friend or family member. Of course, the severity of these vary from one individual to the next, but it's a safe bet that most larger people have these topics on their minds.
Hopefully, seeing some things from their perspective might help to understand some of the seemingly odd behavior of fat people.
The good news is, your big friend isn't so odd! Or maybe, like in my case, they are still a little odd. And there's NOTHING wrong with being odd!
In the end though, most of us try to live our lives within the common expectations of normalcy… but yes, some of our ways of doing it can look a bit strange.
Losing weight certainly help to reduce these worries/behaviors. I can fully attest that my physical life obstacles have been greatly reduced after losing 100 pounds with sustainable diet changes.
PLEAS NOTE: I use the term “fat people” to refer to large or big people like myself. I don't use it in a derogatory way and mean no offense by it.